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 Posted: Mon Sep 1, 2008 10:34 am |
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| After months and months of planning a trip and several reassurances that it was definitely happening, my friend has let me down (and i found out when she wrote on a mutual friends wall on facebook.....nice!!!)
Completely gutted and can't really believe it!! I'm guessing this has happened to other people so I'm just posting for some moral support as i now am planning my trip solo! Going to Costa Rica for 6 weeks just after christmas (3 of which will be spent studying spanish) then I'm off to South America. Thinking of finding an organic farm to work on in Brazil so least I'd make some friends! Or do people think South America is too dangerous for a female on her own?? Nikki x |
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| Posted: Mon Sep 1, 2008 10:37 am |
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| Nope.
South America is an amzing place. You'll have a ball. Start out in a city, make some friends, then just see where the wind takes you. |
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| Posted: Mon Sep 1, 2008 11:07 am |
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| People will more often than not, let you down...
The same thing happened to me when i went to thailand last year... Was supposed to have gone with atleast 3 people...all of them pulled out at the 11th hour...i just said ufck it, imma go alone and i did...it's a not a very pleasant idea headin' off alone, but you meet people along the way and make some good friends... I havnt been to S.A. but you should meet tons of people headed that direction and doin' almost the same thing u'll be doin...and you really shouldnt worry...You'll be fine... My South American trip is in Jan 2010...can't wait... |
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| Posted: Mon Sep 8, 2008 2:56 pm |
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| Just think about the lucky escape you had! My cousin went travelling with her best friend. A week into the trip her so-called-friend decided it was too much and went home. My cousin was left with no choice but to continue and had a much better time without worrying about keeping someone else happy. I'm sure you'll have a fantastic time and your friend will be immensely upset with herself for not going through with it. | |
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| Posted: Mon Sep 8, 2008 6:40 pm |
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| I wouldnt think of going away with anyone I knew from home(well, the exception would be going away with someone I met on my travels before). You will have a much more rewarding experience going solo and doing everything for yourself. Part of the whole experience is meeting completely new people and having a mate from home there makes it too easy to not bother.
Then you have to think about the stresses of it all on your friendship, disagreeing over what to do and where to go. The people you meet traveling, wont take offense when you want to do your own thing for a while. You will have a wicked time on your own, dont worry about not meeting people and being alone, because it just doesnt happen. |
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| Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2008 3:16 pm |
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| hi nikki,
sumthing similar happened to me.sum of my friends had travelled to oz and i was supposed to travel out to them-just to get my bearings,however got an e-mail saying dat i wasn't welcome in the group.anyway, at least u knew where u stood b4 u left.im planning to head to oz this yr n my own,it will be daunting but im really looking ward to it,so hope this is moral support which is of sum use 2 u!!! |
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| Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2008 3:36 pm |
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I wouldnt think of going away with anyone I knew from home
I disagree with this. I'm going traveling around Oz with my best mate and I cannot wait. Of course there will be times when I want to do something and he doesn't, and vice versa, but at the end of the day, you don't have to spend every second together. Knowing I'm going with him means I haven't felt nervous whatsoever about the social aspects of traveling, and the savings we'll make on food and transport will be extremely valuable. At the end of the day, it all depends on the type of person you wanna go with. You can pretty much tell who's heart is really in it. Either way though, you're bound to have the most amazing time. Traveling is all about reaping the rewards from all the hard work and sacrifices that go before it. |
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| Posted: Wed Sep 17, 2008 4:10 pm |
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| I understand too, friends are crap!! Have been planning travelling for the past three years, the first time with one best friend who pulled out because i got a boyfriend and even though i still was out all the time she listened to other people when they said i wouldn't go so she pulled out at the last minute!! Then the next time with my other best friend who pulled out but at least she was open about it and let me know straight away.
So anyway came back from trhee weeks in Thailand in march and booked my tickets straight away, all set now to leave RTW on 27th Nov - scary shit but at least i'm going and i know friends or not i'll have a wicked time. Beats working for an insurance company!! I also get some satisfaction in the fat that my first friend who pulled out is now gutted and miserable - ok a bit harsh but funny he he. I know i'll miss my girly friends but not for long. Good luck! xx |
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| Posted: Thu Sep 18, 2008 3:03 am |
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After months and months of planning a trip and several reassurances that it was definitely happening, my friend has let me down (and i found out when she wrote on a mutual friends wall on facebook.....nice!!!)
Serves you right for having a facebook ;) |
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| Posted: Sat Sep 20, 2008 10:26 am |
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i know what you mean me and my 2 best friends went out to nz in dec to see our friend that moved out there 2 years ago, and ever since we got back we were determined to go back out there for a gap year. one of them pulled out pretty quickly, cos of uni and stuff but i dont mind shes gonna come and see us at christmas. but my other friend was still determined to go out and i no she really wants to, but now it looks like shes pulled out cos she cant commit to saving, theres always something that takes priority i felt really sorry for her but now i've realised that she didnt have to spend that money so its her own fault and in the end i no shes really going to regret not making the commitment. at the end of the day you've got to live life for you, so i bet your gonna have an awesome time being independent and meeting new people 
hope all goes well xx |
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| Posted: Tue Oct 7, 2008 12:19 pm |
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| I am going with one of my best friends,
You could try to travel with someone like your best friend or someone you can hack for 24/7 for the year. Gotta understand that you will need space from each other one in a while, and once you get hang of wherever you are visiting you can do your own thing on some days... You could do with agreeing the same budget, cos it may cause arguements, if one of you has 10k and the other person has only saved 4k, and is having to watch there pennies daily while there mate buys everything in site ha ha! Hmm also needs to be someone you CAN talk to, you will have to struggle together, get ripped off together, and support them if the worst happens. Its hard but I cant wait, we know what we're heading for, and hopefully we'll still be good friends forever as she is only person who will ever share the trip again.
I really hope she doesnt back out like some people mentioend above, however I reckon i would go alone in that case, everyone makes new friends and you can go at your own pace daily. |
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| Posted: Tue Oct 7, 2008 12:29 pm |
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| I started my trip with my best friend, and her going home was the best possible thing that could have happened. Sounds harsh, but i think i took to travelling more then her, and she did tend to hold me back slightly! I have had both experiences, and would definatly say travelling with friends made while travelling was so much better!
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| Posted: Tue Oct 7, 2008 12:31 pm |
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| I was supposed to be travelling with my friend. We had some differences and I decided to bring my dates forward and go solo. Couldn't be happier with the decision. | |
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 3:39 pm |
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| yea same here...was my friend but she backed out and then my sister--we had some differences- and im so happy to be going solo- you can meet friends and do exactly what you want..without having to worry about other people... woop woop 141days to go.... | |
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| Posted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 6:53 pm |
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Travelling with mates/gfs/bfs and solo all have their bonuses.
but with regards to finding out on facebook,that is just funny. |
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