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Leaving boyfriends to go travelling!! |
 Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 4:54 pm |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:07 pm |
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| if your def going to go. then you need to break up him ASAP. so ure head wont be all fucked up by the time you leave gives a bit of time to get over it before you go off wandering da world.
but yea no easy way but just say it how it is. you will need to do it as he is not going to.  good luck |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:09 pm |
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| i went travelling to oz when i was 18, met my bf after 10 days there who was on a rtw trip. spent 7 months together in sydney then he went on his way and didnt meet up again for 5 months when i got home. in sept 2007 after 4 years together i went travelling again, we stayed together and i told him it was something i was going to do whether he liked it or not (not in those words but he knew what i meant!) now im back and we are living together. we have been together for 5 and a half years now and travelling has not harmed our relationship at all. we never considered splitting up when i decided to go away again.
that being said, being single when you go away would be easier. it did get annoying at times when id told him id ring and i was with a group of people and was having a laugh and id have to leave the group. also he says he found it hard being sat in work wondering where in the world i was and what i was doing (there were times he didnt know what country i was in!) but having travelled himself he understood there were times when i couldnt ring him for over a week. |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:10 pm |
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| [quote]if your def going to go. then you need to break up him ASAP. so ure head wont be all fucked up by the time you leave gives a bit of time to get over it before you go off wandering da world.
but yea no easy way but just say it how it is. you will need to do it as he is not going to. good luck[/quote]
wrong, wanting to travel doesnt mean you stop loving them or want to be with them |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:14 pm |
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You obviously have a great bf, so many guys would be very pissed off and not be cool with that..........  great story |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:18 pm |
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| Thanks sarah, good to hear other peoples stories etc. Only thing is my bf wont understand if i cant call him for a week, he has no interest in travel, and cant understand why i want to go. How long did u go for the second time??
Ah broke, thanks but i dont tink il be breakin up with him asap. I know if i werent going travelling then we'd be fine  |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:20 pm |
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| I think if it's meant to be and he loves you then he'll be waiting for you when you get back | |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:22 pm |
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| If you reckon your boyfriend and you can be apart for 18 months! and not cheat on each other and wait then do that.
If not break up with him sooner the better for both of your sakes. |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:31 pm |
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| 18 months is quite a long time to be apart and you'll probably find after being away travelling the world that you both want different things in life.
I think maybe its best to seperate for that time and if you both want to reunite the relationship when you get home you can otherwise you can enjoy your travelling without having ties to him backhome and visa versa for him but you should to do whats best for you at the end of the day  |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:32 pm |
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I think if it's meant to be and he loves you then he'll be waiting for you when you get back
second that. . . it can work and it cant. But i think either way the pair of you definetly need to have a serious discussion about it. Otherwise its gonna be really messed up when you are preparing to leave and needing to be focused on 100 other things! |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:39 pm |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:40 pm |
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| Everyone's situation is different. I know of a couple who broke up before the guy went traveling. He went South America for a good 7 or so months. She decided to holiday in the caribbean towards his 6th month away and they met up, still wanted to be together so when they both got back to London (she was only away for a fortnight and he came back a month or 2 later) they were stronger than ever. It made them realise how much they meant to each other and now they have moved to Canada together.
Other people want to be a free agent with out the guilt of cheating. Things happen when you're away and you never know who you meet. I think if you do love each other truly you can make it work but I personally am not a fan of long distance relationships. I agree with Broke with the break up being a bit before you leave. You don't want to be leaving on the greatest adventure of your life through teary eyes and a broken heart! |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 5:58 pm |
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Thanks sarah, good to hear other peoples stories etc. Only thing is my bf wont understand if i cant call him for a week, he has no interest in travel, and cant understand why i want to go. How long did u go for the second time??
Ah broke, thanks but i dont tink il be breakin up with him asap. I know if i werent going travelling then we'd be fine i planned to be away for a year but ended up going for 9 months (ran out of money, had a back injury, had been robbed and thought fuck it, im going home!) i should also say that me and my bf did the long distance thing even when we both got back from the 1st round of travelling so from sept 2004 and sept o7 when i went away again, i was in Liverpool and he was in Southampton, so that did make it easier to go. Now we live together i would find it ALOT harder to go away without him. |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 6:11 pm |
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| hey im planning on travelling for a year, working in oz for a year and then travelling for another 6 months-year after that!! my boyfriend isnt interested in travelling in the same way i am (its all i want to do!!) but hes completely cool with me going! i know its going to be very hard at times, but at the moment, hes planning to come and live and work in oz with me, so we'l have that time together! and as for the rest, we've kind of said that after 6 months or so of us being apart he'l try and get a flight out to see me for a bit!! so i guess thats a way round not seeing each other for so long if u can afford it? i mean 6 months is still a long time and i know it will be hard, but its a lot easier to deal with than like 3 years!!! lol! i dont mean this to sound horrible to ur boyfriend, but if he truely loves you then he will want you to be happy, even if that means being ok with you going away for a long time!!! phew, long post! |
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| Posted: Tue Jan 27, 2009 6:12 pm |
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| p.s urzula, where are you going? i love hearing peoples plans!! lol | |
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